As I reported in a previous post, the Boo recently gagged on half a teaspoon of tomato sauce. Which I had cajoled him into trying. I really thought he’d like it, or at least think it was okay, and then I really thought he was going to puke. It was astounding, and sobering, and it brought a big truth home to me: This kid needs to expand his food horizons. And I need to steer that ship.
I don’t particularly want to steer the ship, and the reason is simple: I hate conflict. Being agreeable and saying yes as much as I can are two of my central parenting values. (Unless I’m short on sleep and then I’m… grumpy.) But clearly being agreeable is not serving me well in terms of raising a healthy eater.
And here’s the funny thing: I don’t shy away from conflict when I’m limiting screen time or nudging the Boo to do things I know he can do but doesn’t want to. So I don’t really have that excuse. And now I’ve committed to more conflict in the name of my kid’s health. But, me being me, I’m going to minimize the conflict, and do what I can to make it fun. And I’m going to tell you all about it here. Which will also keep me accountable, because I’m not sure I could deal with publicly confessing to total failure.
I’ve already begun on the conflict-limiting aspect by enlisting our pediatrician. At the Boo’s four-year checkup, when he asked if we had questions or issues, I brought up the Beige Diet (see photo above). The conversation went something like this:
Me: Blah blah terribly selective blah blah it’s at least partly my fault.
Doc: So does he eat fruit?
Me: Yes, he loves apples.
Doc: What about bananas?
Me and hubs simultaneously: Sometimes.
Doc: Giant Eye Roll, internal Oy Vey.
We went on in that vein for a while, and the doctor gave Boo stern instructions to try new foods. Several times. Boo agreed, nodding solemnly. That agreement is what I’ve been leaning on to minimize conflict.
Tune in next week to find out how that’s working out.
Good luck. I am going to follow along for inspiration … I have two picky eaters myself. My son just gagged because I made him try a piece of pizza. Who doesn’t like pizza!?
Mine won’t touch traditional pizza either. It’s the cheese… seriously.
Glad to have you aboard. Hope I can provide some help or at least some moral support. It’s a tough one, especially with so many different approaches out there.
Can you plant a garden? Many kids will happily try things they’ve seen grow. Snap peas are a good one. Tomatoes, beans, melons,…
Sort of — we have a deck that gets good sun so we can grow things in containers. We did snow peas last year and he chewed on a few, so we bought seeds for more last week. 🙂
And carrots!